Don’t do it! I know the summer is coming up, but a long distance relationship is the ‘L.’ The summer is the time to catch up with old friends and family. You do not need someone texting/calling you all day. The summer is also the time to get re-focused and realize why you came to Howard.
I do agree with Jada and the old saying that absence makes the heart grow fonder. Your heart can still be fond of someone without being in a relationship. One thing that is becoming a problem with our generation is that we are way too impatient. We want everything right now. We want instant gratification. This has trickled into our relationships.
I know she was feeling you at the cabaret; I know she has been talking to her girls about you, but that doesn’t mean that after two months you need to be in a relationship.
Take it slow because you don’t want to rush yourself into something unless you’re 100 percent sure. If you are having doubts, don’t do it. We are way too young to put ourselves into relationships that we are not completely sure about.
Rushing into relationships usually causes heartaches, and it very rarely works out well. Being single over the summer also allows you to “wild out” one last time and get all of those player feelings/thoughts out of your system.
I suggest that during the summer you guys take more time to get to know each other outside of Howard because that is when you get to see someone’s true colors.
Also, if you guys can stay on one accord while being miles apart, that means that you are really compatible and will probably have a good relationship. If things go really well, then you guys could potentially get together as a couple when you return in the fall.
The only time I suggest having a long distance summer relationship is if you have been together for at least three months, or if you both are graduating seniors.
Seniors are more mature and by the time they graduate should know what they want in a girl. Also, they have had four years of Howard, which means they have had the brightest and most beautiful young black women in the country to choose from.
No matter how much you want something to work out, forcing it is never good.
If it is meant to be, then it will happen. There is no problem with telling a guy that you miss him over the summer; however, there’s a thin line between being cute and annoying, so make sure you don’t cross it.
Thank you for reading me and Jada’s columns. Thank you for all the feedback you give us on The Yard, in The Punchout and in class.
We can’t wait to start writing these again in the fall. Good luck on your finals and have a blessed summer!
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