How do you define beauty? Do you define it by an unchangeable personality? Do you define it by the models you see in Vogue, Cosmopolitan, or in music videos? Do you let others define it for you?
While we all may have our own definition, allow me to show you where true beauty should reside.
For starters, “Don’t be overly concerned about the outward beauty that depends on fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry or beautiful clothes. You should be known for the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit which is precious to God and others” (more specifically real men). Don’t get me wrong, it is good to look nice, but don’t allow it to consume your entire being.
I see a lot of females dress a “certain” way to catch attention. Now I am a guy, and I’m not supposed to share this with you, but let me share with you some of the unspoken secrets of men.
Men are attracted to various types of woman. We like nice sized breast, (think 36B – DD), a skinny waist (22-29) and a nice onion booty (a booty that isn’t too big, definitely not too small, but so perfect it makes you cry). Basically, we like a well proportioned body.
Most of you ladies know this. But have you ever wondered why we like women like that? Well one answer…lust. There are few exceptions, because “some” men do like a female who’s in shape for health reasons, but for most…it’s just lust.
When we see females with a bangin’ body, the first thing that comes to mind is “Oh the things that I would do to THAT!”
Second, since most like what we see, we come up with an approach to see if we are able to get what that female in particular is made of. Oftentimes, we get to “experience” what her “goodies” are made of and then trash her. We never have intentions of that girl becoming a future wife.
The problem is that a lot of females know that is what we men are attracted to, and try to imitate that sexuality that other females put forth. We guys can pin this out a mile away and to us that usually screams desperation, insecurity, a lack of confidence and a false sense of love.
Those are all perfect conditions to slut a girl out and have no remorse. It’s not right, but that’s life. The only thing you as a female can do is accept it and adapt.
In addition, ladies “Don’t advertise what you don’t tend to sell.” Want a man to treat you with respect? Dress with respect and let the personality follow.
And the reason why I stated, “You should be known for the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit which is precious to God and others,” the reason? You ever met a guy who thought he was all that but was ugly as
God-knows-what? Or, you ever meet a guy who was built like Tyson Beckford, LL Cool J, Shemar Moore, Morris Chestnut, T.I. or Gary Dourdan, and find out that his personality was crap. Well, we guys see A LOT of you females like that. Not all of you now are like that. Just. A lot…like Janice Dickinson.
You should be known for your unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, because if you take care of yourself on the inside, it will definitely show on the outside.
That’s why sometimes you see a good-looking-all-around guy with an average sometimes less-than-average woman. Not because she looks good, but because of the humility, love, confidence and among other things she has to offer, that most of you, unfortunately don’t.
So if you want a man to look at you when you’re 40, when you’re 60 and even when you’re 80, when things are starting to sag, weight is gained in all the wrong places and body parts don’t function as they used to, and you want him to look you dead in your eyes and say,
“You are as beautiful today as the day I first met you. I Love you!” and mean it, then you know what to do.
o in conclusion, if you want to find a real man, develop that beautiful spirit that never fades. Learn to laugh, be free, enjoy life, become educated, establish a spiritual relationship within yourself. Because I know this is cliché, but a real man will love you for you, while a boy only loves you for your outward adornment and that pink kryptonite between your legs. Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting.
Remember. “We don’t love dem hoes, we just like what they got to offer.”
J.D. Spivey,
senior biology major
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