He Said: Facebook Relationships

Every student on Howard’s campus is on Facebook.  It’s easier to use than text messaging. There are literally thousands of people at your disposal, so it was only a matter of time before it trickled into relationships.

Now we all know it’s annoying when a girl changes her last name to her boyfriend’s last name.  Or when a couple makes a new photo album every week! What is poking somebody?!?!  I know you have been poked and thought to yourself, “How should I take this?”

Also, another annoying thing about Facebook is the fact that some people only pick the best pictures of them for everyone to see.  You never catch some girls without looking “glamorous.”  And we all know those people who are Facebook celebrities but socially awkward in person. 

Facebook is destroying dating and relationships as we know them. It is destroying the art of communication and non-verbal communication. Can you really get to know someone through Facebook?  The answer is no.

You can find out their major and their favorite music artists, but you can’t pick up on little nuances such as how a person likes to dress, sarcasm and non-verbal communication.

Another thing that Facebook does is amplify old relationships.  It’s a lot easier to move on when you don’t have to look at pictures of good times you guys had together in that photo album or see status updates about their new boo. 

Or even worse is when somebody flirts with them on their wall!

Also, I think posting your relationship status and who its with is very silly and serves no purpose.  Letting the whole world know your business is never what’s up, especially if you are not married and just dating.  You may burn bridges just by who you are dating and not know it. 

That is why most guys don’t want their relationship status on the Internet for everybody and their mama to see. 

I know you want to flaunt your man, but go to Pentagon City if you want to do that, not Facebook!

Before you get off Facebook chat ask her out on a real date. You know in person like they used to do in 2003, I guarantee you it’ll be a lot better.

1 comments

Brett T

Wed Aug 19 2009 13:28

Indeed. I couldn't agree more and I've never engaged in any social network. I am on the extreme end of the "right brained" which predisposes me with an acute awareness of the importance of intuition. In regards to people, I define intuition as a built-in mechanism that measures the degree of incongruity between verbal and non-verbal communication - the gut feeling we get when we meet a person. Facebook removes intuition from the equation and adds a gain/loss scenario. Facebook is nothing less than a social conditioner that encourages and propagates inaccurate perceptions of others and shallow relationships.

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